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Soul Ties 10

Welcome to #SoulTies 10. In #SoulTies 10, we are looking at how to recover from a nasty break-up or a failed relationship and bounce back. We start by examining our commitment to God and our salvation status before looking at the importance of forgiveness and the elimination of a bitter spirit.

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1. Good evening y’all. #SoulTies 10 starts now. Hope you all had a great week so far.

2. I want to state that we are not here to condemn anyone or stigmatize anyone who has repeatedly fallen into sin due to #SoulTies

3. We are here to expose #SoulTies as the works of the enemy that the blood of Jesus has been shed to purge us from.

4. We are also not here to provide excuses and reasons for Christians to continue in sin due to a misunderstanding of grace. #SoulTies

5. The Bible states clearly in Romans 6:23 that the wages of sin is death #SoulTies is no excuse for us to continue in sin

6. We are here to work out our salvation (that Jesus already paid with His blood) from #SoulTies according to God’s word.

7. Please take time off to LIKE our Facebook page using this link #SoulTies

8. Please join our FaceBook group here as well to receive time updates about our activities. #SoulTies

9. Please join our Google+ community here. We are looking to host #SoulTies Hangouts soon from there.

10. Tonight we are attempting to answer a question, in the context of #SoulTies, which is how to recover from a nasty breakup.

11. Due to time constraints, I assume that it’s now accepted that d breakup is for real & u’re not coming back together again. #SoulTies

12. U r still dazed & your inner circle has come to comfort you with d words on this pic. #SoulTies

13. I saw this happen many times when I was in UNI and this literally sapped life out of vibrant ladies on campus overnight. #SoulTies

14. I saw this happen to both Christians and non-Christians in UNI so it wasn’t an experience that was localised to 1 group. #SoulTies

15. I also personally experienced this both on the emotional and spiritual sides. So I am sharing practical stuff here. #SoulTies

16. I will be sharing stuff from the bible, the Word of God. It’s the most resourceful repository of wisdom I know of. #SoulTies

17. When this breakup happens, we still hold on to thoughts and fantasies of what could have been if breakup didn’t happen. #SoulTies

18. Ladies are hit more badly here cos they put more heart, life and hope into their relationships than men. #SoulTies

19. They would do all they can to prevent their relationships from falling off d cliff. #SoulTies

20. It’s a time where you are torn apart on your insides wondering where you went wrong. #SoulTies

21. You feel humiliated cos you had told us this was it and changed your relationship status to engaged. Now oops! #SoulTies

22. You made him the face of your laptop screensaver and your phone lock screen but oops! #SoulTies

23. To think it felt so good at the beginning and now its all turned to pain and anguish. #SoulTies

24. After a breakup, there is a vey toxic mix of emotions welling up in u; despair, revenge, confusion, anger, hurt, loss etc #SoulTies

25. Then your inner circle turns up to give you all sorts of counsel just like they did to Job. #SoulTies

26. Some say try crying and you have cried, no improvement. Some say go on holiday, go eating, etc None does d job. #SoulTies

27. In the process, you even resort to sentimental music with lyrics written by those who went through the same. #SoulTies

28. Then it becomes a perpetual wound that u show to everyone who turns up to attract empathy & an arm round your shoulder. #SoulTies

29. Now let’s start #SoulTies 10 here by looking at the God factor first and then on to the required human steps. #SoulTies

30. In all we have said so far, very little mention has been made of God. It’s been all about ourselves who got injured. #SoulTies

31. Ex 20:3 says “Thou shall have no other gods before me”. First, we need to conduct a spiritual checkup on ourselves. #SoulTies

32. Was God ever the basis and the foundation of that relationship? Did that whirlwind romance bring u closer to God? #SoulTies

33. Did u do things in that relationship that clearly showed that affection for him/her was more than your affection for God? #SoulTies

34. This is the time for you to check up on your salvation status. If you pass on today, do you know where you are headed? #SoulTies

35. Do you know that there is no marital status or marriages in heaven and hell? We all show up there as individuals. #SoulTies

36. If you are unsure of your salvation status, now that he/she is gone is the best time to verify that status. #SoulTies

37. Secondly, if your salvation status is verified, did you compromise God’s values for this person during the relationship? #SoulTies

38. Applies to men and women. Women give up their bodies hoping to secure the guy. Men steal to buy stuff to keep the woman. #SoulTies

39. If you are a born-again Christian & you have indulged in all these, now may be the best time for you to repent before God. #SoulTies

40. Those are just examples. You know where, how and when you have compromised Godly values for this human relationship. #SoulTies

41. Many feel cheated and exploited because they gave up their cherished values and the person still messed up and bolted off. #SoulTies

42. You made this guy into a graven image that u respected more than God. You skipped church attendance to always be with him. #SoulTies

43. You made this girl your god. You spent your tithes and offerings on her and she still left you for a more loaded guy. #SoulTies

44. Do you know that the Shango guy in the forest is not the only idol worshipper in our midst today? #SoulTies

45. Anytime you elevate a person or thing above Jesus, you have created a graven image that you are worshipping. #SoulTies

46. Most times you elevate a relationship above God, it hardly ever ever ends well because satan is a wicked task master. #SoulTies

47. Y’all may not find these comfortable but fasten your seatbelts. The ride is rough but we’ll all land safely. #SoulTies

48. Now that we are done with our spiritual health check, let us begin to pick the other steps from here. #SoulTies

49. Please note that these steps are not sequential but they are simultaneous. I.e. they should be done together. #SoulTies

50. Numero Uno is Forgiveness. Until you forgive and root the bitter feeling and taste out of your system, u will struggle. #SoulTies

51. I see people on my TL talk about a karma. Karma is not your business to execute in life. Vengeance belongs unto the Lord. #SoulTies

52. Jesus said in Mark 11:25 that when you stand praying that you should forgive else you won’t see God’s forgiveness. #SoulTies

53. Paul said in Heb 12:15 that a root of bitterness in you can torment and trouble you and also contaminate others. #SoulTies

54. When you are bitter, you wish that other person evil in your heart. You just wish he would drop dead for what he did. #SoulTies

55. When you are bitter, you cannot stop tallking evil about this person that hurt you whenever you have the chance to talk. #SoulTies

56. Forgiveness is different from stupidity. When I forgive you, it doesn’t mean u are welcome to come back and hit me again. #SoulTies

57. When I forgive you, it means I no longer retain you in the prison of my heart wishing retribution against you. #SoulTies

58. Forgiveness also does not necessarily excuse the offender from divine retribution but releases you to move on. #SoulTies

59. It’s spiritually mandatory to forgive but you may not forget that easily and its ok. Don’t beat yourself up on it. #SoulTies

60. Someone hurt me emotionally over 2 decades ago. She’s forgiven but I didn’t forget. Mention her name, I’ll remember. #SoulTies

61. It’s what d memory does that’s key. Does it make you cry, hiss, regret, bitter or give praise to God for a better person? #SoulTies

62. How do we practically implement this step cos its a step that you find yourself almost too weak to practise at such times? #SoulTies

63. You practise it by saying with your mouth before you pray “I declare that XXXXX is forgiven in the Name of Jesus”. #SoulTies

64. “I release XXXXX from my systems and let him/her go in d Name of Jesus. I wish no evil upon him/her in the Name of Jesus” #SoulTies

65. And then, you continue with your other prayers. This is Christianity as practised by our role model, Jesus Christ. #SoulTies

66. While Jesus was being torn apart by those whom He came to save, He prayed that God should forgive them. #SoulTies

67. Please don’t bring up other contexts like rape, abuse with me. We are treating only emotional breakups here. #SoulTies

68. Those other contexts require full disclosure to law enforcement agents so please don’t start a debate on that. #SoulTies

69. When you are still bitter, you say to everyone that all men or all women are the same. They are all just useless. #SoulTies

70. I’ll let you in on one secret. Anytime I heard a lady say this when I was single, I just passed without questions. Why? #SoulTies

71. I know straightaway that someone has split your soul and I don’t want to be a victim of that man’s crime against u. #SoulTies

72. I was a Mummy’s boy so I wouldn’t know how to handle that stress so I always looked out for it so I could avoid it. #SoulTies

73. We are out of time but next week we’ll dive in quicker to look at the remaining steps. #SoulTies

74. These are prayer, speaking of words, Weaning yourself (do u know how to wean yourself?), Social media steps. #SoulTies

75. For now, let’s practise forgiveness and let me know how you feel when we meet next week for the other steps. #SoulTies

76. Y’all know how to find me. We’ll do a re-run tomorrow at 12:00 Nigerian time.

77. Please feel free to reply d tweets & give some feedback. I want to know how well it’s going down & straighten rough edges. #SoulTies

78. If you are joining in for the first time today, please catch up with us by going to for #SoulTies 1-9.

79. #SoulTies 10 will be up on the blog later today.

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Olusola Adio

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Posted by on November 25, 2013 in Bitterness, SoulTies, Unforgiveness


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