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1. Welcome to Day 6 of #SoulTies Intro Course. Today we look at recovering from a nasty breakup. Pls follow @SoulTiesTweets
2. You are still dazed that the breakup happened and you are still asking yourself where did it all go wrong. #SoulTies
3. I saw this happen many times when I was in UNI and this literally sapped life out of vibrant ladies on campus overnight. #SoulTies
4. I saw this happen to both Christians and non-Christians in UNI so it wasn’t an experience that was localised to 1 group. #SoulTies
5. I also personally experienced this both on the emotional and spiritual sides. So I am sharing practical stuff here. #SoulTies
6. I will be sharing stuff from the bible, the Word of God. It’s the most resourceful repository of wisdom I know of. #SoulTies
7. When this breakup happens, you still hold on to thoughts and fantasies of what could have been if breakup didn’t happen. #SoulTies
8. Ladies are hit more badly here cos they put more heart, life and hope into their relationships than men. #SoulTies
9. They would do all they can to prevent their relationships from falling off d cliff. #SoulTies
10. It’s a time where you are torn apart on your insides wondering where you went wrong. #SoulTies
11. You feel humiliated cos you had told us this was it and changed your relationship status to engaged. Now oops! #SoulTies
12. You made him the face of your laptop screensaver and your phone lock screen but oops! #SoulTies
13. To think it felt so good at the beginning and now its all turned to pain and anguish. #SoulTies
14. After a breakup, there is a very toxic mix of emotions welling up in u; despair, revenge, confusion, anger, hurt, loss etc #SoulTies
15. Then your inner circle turns up to give you all sorts of counsel just like they did to Job. #SoulTies
16. Some say try crying and you have cried, no improvement. Some say go on holiday, go eating, etc None does the job. #SoulTies
17. In the process, you even resort to sentimental music with lyrics written by those who went through the same. #SoulTies
18. Then it becomes a perpetual wound that u show to everyone who turns up to attract empathy & an arm round your shoulder. #SoulTies
19. Now let’s start here by looking at the God factor first and then on to the required human steps. #SoulTies
20. In all we have said so far, very little mention has been made of God. It’s been all about ourselves who got injured. #SoulTies
21. Ex 20:3 says “Thou shall have no other gods before me”. First, we need to conduct a spiritual checkup on ourselves. #SoulTies
22. Was God ever the basis and the foundation of that relationship? Did that whirlwind romance bring u closer to God? #SoulTies
23. Did u do things in that relationship that clearly showed that affection for him/her was more than your affection for God? #SoulTies
24. This is the time for you to check up on your salvation status. If you pass on today, do you know where you are headed? #SoulTies
25. Do you know that there is no marital status or marriage in heaven and hell? We all show up there as individuals. #SoulTies
26. If you are unsure of your salvation status, now that he/she is gone is the best time to verify that status. #SoulTies
27. If u die today, do u know where ur spirit is going? Heaven or hell? It’s a far more important question than who u marry. #SoulTies
28. Secondly, if your salvation status is verified, did you compromise God’s values for this person during the relationship? #SoulTies
29. Applies to men and women. Women give up their bodies hoping to secure the guy. Men steal to buy stuff to keep the woman. #SoulTies
30. If you are a born-again Christian & you have indulged in all these, now may be the best time for you to repent before God. #SoulTies
31. Those are just examples. You know where, how and when you have compromised Godly values for this human relationship. #SoulTies
32. Many feel cheated and exploited because they gave up their cherished values and the person still messed up and bolted off. #SoulTies
33. You made this guy into a graven image that u respected more than God. You skipped church attendance to always be with him. #SoulTies
34. You disobeyed God and handed over your virginity to a Bozo and he still dumped you for a lady offering better sex. #SoulTies
35. Based on a fake promise to marry u, u squandered your virginity and he still left you for another girl with better sex. #SoulTies
36. You made this girl your god. You spent your tithes and offerings on her and she still left you for a more loaded guy. #SoulTies
37. Brother, you were not guided by God into that relationship but you were guided by your bazooka and she still dumped you. #SoulTies
38. Do you know that the Shango guy in the forest is not the only idol worshipper in our midst today? #SoulTies
39. Anytime you elevate a person or thing above Jesus, you have created a graven image that you are worshipping. #SoulTies
40. Most times you elevate a relationship above God, it hardly ever ever ends well because satan is a wicked task master. #SoulTies
41. God is a jealous God. When you elevate a mortal above Him, you have pushed God out of the driving seat of your life. #SoulTies
42. Now that this guy or lady is out of your life, it’s time to stop crying and make God the number One over your life again. #SoulTies
43. Most relationships that pushed God out of your life robbed you of the warning signals that could have saved you from it. #SoulTies
44. You need to stop mourning the exit of a human being who could possibly have been taking you on a journey to hell. #SoulTies
45. Also the mentality of scarcity, drives up women hurt level when men leave them. Wondering when will the next one come. #SoulTies
46. It’s time to return to God and put him back on the driving seat of your life. It’s time to re-order your priorities. #SoulTies
47. Y’all may not find these comfortable but fasten your seat belts. The ride is rough but we’ll all land safely. #SoulTies
48. Now that we are done with our spiritual health check, let us begin to pick the other steps from here. #SoulTies
49. Please note that these steps are not sequential but they are simultaneous. I.e. they should be done together. #SoulTies
50. Numero Uno is Forgiveness. Until you forgive and root the bitter feeling and taste out of your system, u will struggle. #SoulTies
51. I see people on my TL talk about a karma. Karma is not your business to execute in life. Vengeance belongs unto the Lord. #SoulTies
52. Jesus said in Mark 11:25 that when you stand praying that you should forgive else you won’t see God’s forgiveness. #SoulTies
53. Paul said in Heb 12:15 that a root of bitterness in you can torment and trouble you and also contaminate others. #SoulTies
54. When you are bitter, you wish that other person evil in your heart. You just wish he would drop dead for what he did. #SoulTies
55. When you are bitter, you cannot stop talking evil about this person that hurt you whenever you have the chance to talk. #SoulTies
56. Forgiveness is different from stupidity. When I forgive you, it doesn’t mean u are welcome to come back and hit me again. #SoulTies
57. When I forgive you, it means I no longer retain you in the prison of my heart wishing retribution against you. #SoulTies
58. Forgiveness also does not necessarily excuse the offender from divine retribution but releases you to move on. #SoulTies
59. I have hundreds of tweets on recovering from nasty breakups and we barely scratched d surface. #SoulTies
60. I have to stop here at tweet 60. We come to the end of Day 6 of the #SoulTies Intro course. Please join me for the final Day tomorrow.

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